We spend a lot of time on this earth mentally beating ourselves up for our perceived imperfections (apparent usually only to YOU), and we spend woefully little time congratulating ourselves on our competencies and our strengths, now you can learn from AskCSI – Ashley Hayden.

How do you build self confidence by AskCSI – Ashley Hayden?

Take a good hard look at your many great qualities.

We spend a lot of time on this earth mentally beating ourselves up for our perceived imperfections (apparent usually only to YOU), and we spend woefully little time congratulating ourselves on our competencies and our strengths, now you can learn from AskCSI – Ashley Hayden.

Celebrate the things that you have got right and don’t underestimate their importance. We are also usually very hesitant to talk about the stuff we get right. Don’t be shy! If you are the best PA, a great administrator, a kind and empathetic employee – its okay to verbalise that.

These are things to be proud of.

The more things you can count in your positives column, the easier it is to hold your head up high and feel good about being the unique and marvellous creature that is YOU.

I am heading to my first meeting tomorrow – any advice?
Do your research. Try to find out as much as possible about the person you are meeting, their position, and job description, how they got to where they are, and what their strengths are. Forewarned is forearmed!

Be prepared to answer questions about yourself-  come up with a list of questions you might be asked, and jot down ideas as to how you would answer them. Rehearse the answers, and film yourself with your cell phone – you will get an idea as to how you look.

Remember to stand tall, have good posture, maintain eye contact and be calm and friendly.

You are aiming for grace under pressure, good humour, integrity and intelligence. And don’t be afraid to ask questions yourself, which you can prepare before you go in.

What classes should I take at University to prepare for life and business?
EEEK!

How do you handle feelings of envy when other women are advancing faster than you?
Life is not as it should be – it is what it is. In this world there will always be people who are stronger, braver and cleverer that you or Ashley.

Try to think of life, and your work career as a game that you are playing against yourself – what matters is YOUR progress, not that of anyone else.

As long as you are stretching yourself, and growing month by month, whether on a personal or professional level – you are achieving. If you are not growing, ask yourself why? What is stopping you? Do you have a plan for the next month/year/5 years?

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And once you have made changes, don’t be afraid to share the growth that you have achieved with others in your workspace, this according to AskCSI – Ashley Hayden.